Similar to my recent article regarding how I see breakups as no other than shakeups, this article is aiming to discuss another topic I like to see as an “empowerment opportunity”. We have all been there, and we will all go there, that we like it or not. Haters are a part of our society, they are a part of our shadow side and as much as we would like them to disappear from the surface of the Earth, they’ll come back in different shape or forms. But are haters really just here to hopelessly make us feel like we don’t deserve a chance in the world or are they here to teach us valuable lessons?
I believe a little bit of both.
We have all heard the stories of important people being told that they wouldn’t make it in this world and that they wouldn’t stand a chance because of x, y, and z. And what have those people
And what did these people do?
They’ve proven them wrong, in the most epic and memorable way.
They have all been there and anyone who has had an inch of success had to go through this initiatic stage of their lives. But how can we rationalize that those haters are in fact, helping us along the way? How can we not give them the satisfaction of being right?
1. Knowing their purpose and knowing it serves the bigger picture
Knowing the purpose of things is not only comforting but it’s also crucial to keep your head high. It is the one thing that will help you keep your power and help you move along, whatever the situation might be. Haters will try to make you lower your head and doubt yourself which is not a bad thing in itself as it will give you the opportunity to stand in your power and break free from your own insecurities. Knowing that you are not hopeless in this situation and that you are not a victim of your own life is really empowering. And the more conscious you become, the less you get hurt. This brings me to my second point:
2. Issues haters trigger are ofter a reflection of your own insecurities.
I know this might sound harsh to hear if you are currently living a situation where people are hating on you, but we attract in our lives people that will help us grow and grow out of those insecurities. Some people live and relive the same relationship patterns over and over again because they refuse to open their eyes on the underlying issues that lie within themselves. That is because they are attracting those relationships in order to work on their own issues of self-worth, self-love, and self-acceptance. Haters act a bit in the same way. Someone who has a hard time accepting themselves for who they are might attract people who don’t accept them for who they are, making the whole even more obvious and blatant. We all have some recurrent issues in our lives and come on this earth with baggage that gets amplified in our childhood and life in general. That is why those people are here, to show us the way to those uncomfortable things within ourselves.
3. We need to accept that sometimes we make mistakes.
That is a big one. We all make mistakes. But is that really a reason to never forgive ourselves? Life gives us chances and opportunities to grow and depending on the way we react to them, we bring upon us what is yet to come. Some people might dislike us for some things we have done in the past, for failed opportunities to go back to the divine, for our shadow selves but at the end of the day, all these things shape us into who we are. And if we hate ourselves for past mistakes in the present day, we can only attract more of this type of negativity. So that is why it is crucial to forgive ourselves and to know that whatever might have happened and however people perceive you, it doesn’t make you the bad person they think you are. That in all the cases, we need to love ourselves more than anyone’s opinion. We all make mistakes, all of us, what is important is to rise above it.
4. Ego destruction
We all go through phases in our lives where our egos are put to test, to see how much we rely on it and how ego-based we really are. Ego resides in lower frequencies and is controlled by our lower chakras and as we ascend, the more we need to vibrate through higher frequencies and leave our ego behind. That is the main reason why we go through what some call “Dark Night of the Soul” periods. Times in which our egos and our whole being are being questioned and put to some kind of tests. This is necessary to become the best version of our selves, as the more we act through fear and through our ego, the less we can really connect to the divine.
It is important in times like these to gain perspective on situations and to not let it control us in a negative way. These things, like anything else, are here to show us our own weaknesses and our own shadow side. The most important is to be able to discern what is it that we accept and what is it that we don’t. If you don’t accept people hating on you in your life, then don’t let it become your reality, because if you do, more and more people will start to act out the very same things you don’t want. There will always be haters and the less you give them attention, the more energy you have to put in things that will actually serve you and humanity in general.
Don’t let your ego have the best of you because you will keep on feeding your shadow side and the more situations like these you can attract.
After all, this is a lesson of humility and humility comes at a price, like anything else in life.
When we don’t let ourselves be the victim of our own movie, that’s when we have opportunities to be empowered and prove the whole world wrong. And at some point, even prove ourselves wrong. We are our own worst enemy most of the times, and learning to make the most of the awful situations is an amazing skill to have in life and will spare you a lot of heartaches. Because taking back your power starts now.
Until next time,